Being me

Being me, I had- as I usually do – a sense of what I wanted my next blog article to be about and I went online to look for a pithy quote or two to help illustrate the point(s) I wanted to make. And this quote – which wasn't about what I had consciously set out to write about – just leapt out at me.

It’s by Virginia Satir who, as some of you will know, is one of the people Grinder and Bandler modelled when they developed NLP.

‘nuff said!

I am Me. In all the world, there is no one else exactly like me. Everything that comes out of me is authentically mine, because I alone chose it - I own everything about me: my body, my feelings, my mouth, my voice, all my actions, whether they be to others or myself. I own my fantasies, my dreams, my hopes, my fears. I own my triumphs and successes, all my failures and mistakes. Because I own all of me, I can become intimately acquainted with me. By doing so I can love me and be friendly with all my parts. I know there are aspects of myself that puzzle me, and other aspects that I do not know – but as long as I am friendly and loving to myself, I can courageously and hopefully look for solutions to the puzzles and ways to find out more about me. However I look and sound, whatever I say and do, and whatever I think and feel at a given moment in time is authentically me. If later some parts of how I looked, sounded, thought and felt turn out to be unfitting, I can discard that which is unfitting, keep the rest, and invent something new for that which I discarded. I can see, hear, feel, think, say, and do. I have the tools to survive, to be close to others, to be productive, and to make sense and order out of the world of people and things outside of me. I own me, and therefore I can engineer me. I am me, and I am Okay.